Hey Dear Reader, hope you are well? I trust you have been living your great life, not being overly bothered by the storms of life, but cherishing every moment as it comes – living it to the fullest and giving thanks for the gift of life by showing and spreading love all around you!!!
Okay so! Today, I want to discuss with you something one of my coaches shared with me recently on essential matters! Pay careful attention and please, please and please, don’t think we are crazy just cos these thoughts aren’t popular! The fact that we live in a practically dysfunctional society where almost everything is upside-down and everyone is just struggling to survive or keep their heads above the storm, doesn’t mean we can’t be sane and mild, and deep, and kind!
If you’ve ever come across the children’s book, The Little Prince, you might remember the point in the story when the Little Prince has this to say about grown-ups:
“When you tell them that you have made a new friend, they never ask you any questions about essential matters. They never say to you, ‘What does his voice sound like? What games does he love best? Does he collect butterflies?’
“Instead, they demand: ‘How old is he? How many brothers has he? How much does he weigh? How much money does his father make?’ Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.”
I know the former sounds awkward to do and the latter is a more familiar approach to know more about people but this excerpt suggests that we grown-ups are so distracted by the surface level of life, the “facts and figures” of it, that we are perhaps no longer able to care about the deeper, more human and truly important things that make people worth knowing and life worth living.
Can we strive to know people beyond the physical? Can we perhaps look deeper to the real them and touch the hems of their soul asides the superficial things we see readily? I challenge you to spend a little more time focusing on the “essential matters” in your life, both in your daily interactions with others—even in texts, emails, and social media posts—and in regard to yourself.
I challenge you to sit down and determine what these “essential matters” are for you in regard to who you are now, and also in regard to who you hope to become.
Courtesy of my coach, Jean, this is a simple practice to help you focus on your “essential matters” and the “essential matters” of those around you, consciously creating deeper connections in your life:
Choose someone—it can be a friend, a colleague, or a stranger—and I challenge you to talk to them face to face, and do not allow the conversation to simply float upon the surface; push it deeper by asking questions that matter and that inspire compelling and passionate responses. IF they allow.
Ask about their favorite places in the world or in their homes and yards. Ask about the best things that ever happened to them. Ask about the objects they possess that mean the most to them, the books and movies they love and that have changed and formed them.
But don’t be satisfied with the simple answers to these questions; ask them why these things matter. Ask them to tell you the stories behind their answers.
And be prepared to answer those same questions yourself, and to tell your stories.
… are you kidding me?! That’s fabulous!
“I was a ballerina as a little kid…” “Wow! Me too!”
When we share our stories with one another, that is when we truly connect and recognize ourselves and the Universe in one another.
That is when we move beyond separation and opposition and into partnership and power and possibility.
one love keeps us together!
I encourage you to try this practice every chance you get, and with everyone you know and meet.
I think you’ll find the experience to be profoundly elevating and inspiring every time you do it.
To finding deeper connections in the world around you,