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In this article, as the title reveals, we will be talking about hurts and the much-needed healing for each one of them. Though time and space – and I must confess, limited knowledge – won’t permit me to cover all the various kind of hurts, but I will like to take your hand and walk you through the efficient path to healing. This is because, to live your authentic and peace-filled life, you must learn to forgive, heal and grow.
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Truth is, offences must come. How you deal with them is all that matters. And this is even crucial to your health and entire well-being. Ever heard how that unforgiveness and bitterness are poison to the soul? One can’t be at peace and be vindictive at the same time. To live daily and fully, we must learn to work our way around hurts and free our minds of unnecessary burdens too much to bear. So, what to do now?
To deal with hurts effectively, you have to come to this place of understanding we are all humans. We make mistakes, run out of patience, can be selfish, prideful, inconsiderate, intolerant, misunderstand each other, or just be in a sour mood. We are humans and we are not perfect. Whosoever refuses to understand that is not just being ignorant (by choice), but also being hypocritical. We should realize the same thing others have done to us to hurt us, we could also do it to others. In fact, we most probably have done it to others! We should be patient, merciful and forgiving of other. If we cherish our peace, we should be careful of things we take to heart. Do not allow an offence to fester! If you can’t deal with it on your own, walk up to the person and calmly let them
know how they have hurt you. Hopefully they will apologiise and you’ll feel better. If they don’t, let go of it still, such a person isn’t worth your anger. Always remember that love covers a multitude of sin. Love and forgive them out of your own abundance; that way, you’d have proved your superiority.
Yes! Be calm. Be quiet. Breathe in and out. Restrain yourself in that moment of anger. Do anything to stop yourself from saying things that you would most likely regret later on. A misunderstanding that can eventually be resolved is not worth losing a cherished relationship for. If possible, just stomach your hurt and keep quiet for a while. I promise you, when you are mad at someone or a situation, you don’t process things properly. To keep talking at that very moment will only worsen the situation. It is a wise thing to take charge of your emotions. This will aid better resolve and make it easier to put the episode behind yourselves, forgive each other and move on. If you must say anything, weigh and filter your words before uttering them.
You know what I have come to understand by some category of hurts? It doesn’t go simply by “talking about it”. Someone hurt you bad and then instead of settling with the person and reconciling, you take to nurturing the hurt and telling everyone who cares to listen what great evil someone has done to hurt or harm you? No, doesn’t work. Even if you have tried to speak with the person and you couldn’t resolve and find a common ground, the very next thing to do is NOT to broadcast it.
The scope of my discussion here is that which deals with our human interaction, individual dispositions and the offences that results therewith. Oftentimes, we fall into the trap of thinking that “expressing” our hurts and getting it off our chest by telling people about it or discussing with friends, co-workers etc will help us heal or get over the hurt. No. It will only deepen the wound; forget the superficial feeling of temporary relief after telling people. You still have to face the issue alone and get truly healed. And also remember, things are not always the way it seems. You may end up reconciling with the one who offended you but you can’t withdraw the impression you have made about them to others.
Let me know in the comment section if you find this helpful! Cheers!!!
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